Welcome, my beauties. I am not a fan of rosy-tinted jargon including but not limited to “live laugh love” “live the life you love” blah blah blah save it for your 13 year old Tumblr account. I’m not a pessimist by any means; I cherish my life a great deal, but I am a realist. So let’s get real: you only live one time. Dropping in today to remind you to enjoy what is and let go of what will never be. Today’s post comes from a good friend of mine (we go way back to good ole UC Santa Barbara college days) Miss Amanda Bourne. She’s doing amazing things in the beauty and fashion world right now and consequently is an incredibly busy gal, so it’s a great privilege to have her write for The Savvy Sweet Potato. You can check out her website Mandy Apple Makeup, here or her work at Skorch Magazine here. Without further adieu…
Not too long ago I worked in a department store in the cosmetics department. I was the manager of a skincare line and on slow days found myself mingling and gossiping with makeup artists to pass the time. Though in general I wouldn’t consider myself to be a shallow person, I work in the beauty industry. Topics of conversation would range depending on what was going on in our lives, but somehow in most cases it always lead to body image. If I complimented one of my coworkers on an article of clothing, she almost immediately responded on how that piece covered up one of her flaws, unable to accept the compliment in full. While I never felt the need to go into a rant about how important it is to love yourself and focus on the positive, I diverted the attention away from the negativity. I would claim how much I loved that body part on myself because name is Amanda, I’m plus size and I love my body.
Now, I haven’t always been this way. In fact I have spent most of my life hating my body and wishing it was different, that I was thinner and taller and more beautiful. I didn’t see the beauty in myself because I was constantly comparing my looks to women whose bodies were nothing like mine. I went on diets with hate and disgust in my heart because I wanted to be different so badly. And when the changes didn’t come fast enough I would spiral into a state of depression that was not only bad for my mental health, but for my physical as well.
However, since changing the way I view my body and making efforts to speak to myself from a place of love as opposed to hate, I have developed the foundation for a positive body image. I can look at myself naked in the mirror and be happy with what’s in front of me. When I’m in a group setting I can focus on the positive, and this also means I can celebrate the beauty in others. When you love yourself and the way you look you can recognize that light in those around you and be happy for them. When you’re content with you, you find that you are much less concerned with comparisons.
Because we are so conditioned to hate our bodies this newfound love can be confused with vanity, but maybe that’s not a bad thing. We all have so many features and corks that make us unique and it feels good to celebrate these characteristics. We need to rewire our brains from thinking that we constantly need to view what needs to be “fixed” as opposed to what is already wonderful as is, because that’s what we are, wonderful.
About Amanda: Amanda Bourne is a freelance makeup artist, writer and beauty blogger based out of Southern California. Since raiding her mother’s makeup drawer at age 5, she knew she had a passion for beauty and loved spreading her product knowledge and techniques with those around her. While attending the University of California, Santa Barbara, Amanda remained a freelance artist until she earned her Bachelor’s Degree in Sociology in 2011. She has since moved back home to the Inland Empire and combined her love for people and artistry to pursue makeup full time and is loving every minute of it.